Originality does not consist in saying what no one has ever said before, but in saying exactly what you think yourself. – James Stephens
Saying what you think can be both fearful and freeing at the same time. Not many people I know say exactly what they think, but I’ve found over the years that it is a refreshing change of pace when someone does. You always know where they stand. There is no doubt at all what they mean. Most importantly, they tend to say what everyone else is thinking, but are too afraid to say it out loud.
When we don’t say what we think, on any subject, we are not being true to ourselves. When we hold back for any reason, we stunt our own growth and ability to be as happy as we are meant to be. I think a lot of time it is due to the fact that we don’t have the self confidence. Or we don’t like to stir the pot. Or we don’t like to be involved in confrontations. Or we feel exposed when we speak our mind.
It’s really critical to speak up and say what we are thinking for two important reasons. 1) We must not ever compromise ourselves and be less than who we really are. 2) What we have to say may be just the right thing at the right moment to help a person, a situation, solve a problem or settle an issue.
Next time you are holding back, think about what you may be doing to yourself. Take a chance and speak your mind. Whether it is judged right or wrong is not important. But, I guarantee you will learn something from doing this and you will benefit in the long term.