Holding On To the Past

You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present. – Jan Glidewell

If we let it, the past can place a strangle hold on our present lives making it difficult to move forward, grow, change and be who we really want to be.

I had a realization yesterday that showed me how much I was clinging to past beliefs, attitudes, ideas and concepts. These old and useless thoughts were preventing me from moving forward with my life. It’s not easy sometimes looking at all this dark stuff. But, it’s necessary if you want to be free of it. Whatever you run from or don’t face will always have the upper hand. When you turn your back to what bothers you, loss of power and control is quick to follow.

Sometimes the past represents habits or patterns of thought while other times it may feel more like wrestling with demons. Guilt is another common excuse or justification we use to stay rooted in the past.

Next time you are feeling down and not as happy as you’d like to be, look deep inside and see if the past is holding you back. Trace your thoughts, feelings and beliefs and see where they take you. If you go back to a past decision, event, crisis or etc. then you may have found one source of your bad feelings. Try and look at the past situation with a fresh perspective from your present vantage point. Can you release the binds that are holding you to the past? If you are having difficulty, try talking with a friend, family member, clergy person or professional.

The last thing you want is to hold onto some old thought pattern that is preventing you from having a happy life now. Make the choice to change.

Michael