I learned…that one can never go back, that one should not ever try to go back–that the essence of life is going forward. Life is really a One Way Street. – Agatha Christi
We try to go back . We attempt to live in the past. We feel guilty for past mistakes. We long for the simpler times. We reminisce about how good things used to be. All these things take our focus away from right now.
To live means to move forward. To enjoy life means to sift and choose through the constant flow of “stuff” that comes our way. Happiness comes from the thoughts we think right now and the choices we make. As life isn’t static, this process is a continuous adjustment.
When we focus on the past, we miss the subltleties of the present moment. We miss the opportunites to adjust and therefore manage our level of happiness.
We can’t go back. We can only try to stubbornly stand stationary or we can let life take us forward. The past isn’t fun. Staying stationary is painful. Moving forward is relief.