Deciding to Forgive

Forgiveness is not an emotion, it’s a decision. – Randall Worley

Forgiving comes in two distinct flavors; forgiveness of self and forgiveness of others. I think, overall, we struggle more to forgive ourselves than we do to forgive others. Either way, forgiveness is vitally important for emotional health and general well-being.

Since forgiveness is a decision, we always have the choice to forgive regardless of the situation. The challenge lies in making that choice. When we are hurt, harbor feelings of guilt or feel strong emotions like anger or fear; it can be hard to even think about forgiveness.

When we don’t forgive, we tend to hold on to the past to the point of emotional constipation. We get backed up. Our emotional bucket is overflowing with past hurts, transgressions and etc. to the point of bursting. We can’t enjoy our lives as much because we have all this “baggage” that we have decided to hold on to. Not forgiving is a key factor in stopping or slowing emotional growth. We lean towards pessimism and other negative emotional states more than if we regularly forgive.

The choice to forgive, either ourselves or others, is a choice of living life to the fullest. It’s a choice of moving towards being happier. It’s a choice to experience the world with a sense of optimism and hope. It’s a choice to be responsible for our own feelings and take back our own power. It’s a choice to live in the present moment as opposed to the past.

Choice forgiveness and you will feel the freedom that choice brings.

Have a great day!

Michael