Total, unconditional acceptance of yourself is the first step in building a positive self-image. – Nido Qubein
Don’t you find this interesting? Unconditional acceptance of yourself is the first step of building a positive self-image, not the end result. As I think about this quote, the more it makes a lot of sense to me.
Anything you can’t accept about yourself keeps you in a place that holds you back from that positive self-image. Most of us have trouble accepting the parts of ourselves that we don’t like or judge too harshly. I know that sounds very obvious, but sometimes the obvious needs to be stated out loud to shake us up and make us think a bit. Unconditional acceptance means we accept or like every single thing about ourselves; all of our physical flaws, our choices, our behaviors, our heritage and our actions to name a few. Remember you cannot change anything until you accept it. Once you accept something, you can then move past it and make changes if you so desire.
Sometimes, consciously recognizing things you like about yourself is a good start for accepting things you currently don’t like. You can do this out loud or use your internal dialog. Once you get comfortable with this practice, start on something small that you don’t like about yourself. Find ways to accept where you are with it. In other words, don’t view the “problem” as a permanent thing but something more transitory. Once you find ways to accept these things about yourself, you will find that the realm of possibilities for change increases, solely due to the shift in your attitude.
Good luck with this important personal work.